Waiting the so called "love"..Is that good enough?

Have you been dumped, betrayed or left so heartbroken that you didn't ever want to love again? Are you still stuck on an ex and don't know how to move on? And how do you know when it's time to let go and look for love somewhere else?

If you're "the other woman" who's waiting for a man to leave his lover, don't waste your time. "If he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you," The man you want lacks integrity and can't make a commitment.

Are your standards too low? Dr. Phil asks a guest who's waiting around for a man that's let her down time and again: "What is it about you that causes you to settle for somebody that you know will cheat on you, know will lie to you, know will make a commitment and then break it? What is it about you that you believe about yourself that you're willing to settle for that?" Recognize that you're settling and that you deserve more. Set a higher standard for yourself.

Does he really even make you happy? Be honest with yourself about the extent to which he's really meeting your needs. Chances are you're longing for the relationship that you wish it could be, and that you want to be in love with the person you wish he was. Dr. Phil reminds a guest: "There are times when you break up with somebody and you start missing them and you start thinking about all the good things. And then you're back with them for about 10 minutes and you go 'Oh yeah! Now I remember why I hate you!'" Don't kid yourself about what it was really like or glorify the past.

Don't wait around because you think he's going to change. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, so the chance that he's going to ride in on his white horse and do the right thing is pretty slim. Dr. Phil explains, "To the extent that there's some history, you don't have to speculate, you just have to measure."

Don't put your life on hold. Every minute you spend focusing on your ex is a minute that's holding you back from a better future. Dr. Phil tells his guest, "As long you are obsessed on this guy, you will never put your heart, soul and mind into getting your life in order and starting another relationship if you want one." Set some goals and start putting your life back together.

Don't hold all men responsible for the mistake your ex made. Why should he pay for the sins of someone else who may have wronged you?

Learn to trust men again — by trusting yourself.

Know that you will get hurt if you're in a relationship. There is no perfect person without flaws. " If you want to be in a relationship, know that getting hurt comes with the territory. You just have to decide that you are durable enough, that you have enough confidence in yourself that you can handle it.

Don't invest more than you can afford to lose. While it's important to move forward, you need to take things one step at a time. Don't put so much out there that you'll be emotionally bankrupt if things go south.

Don't beat yourself up. You got through your last experience, you've learned from it, and now it's time to move forward. Dr. Phil tells his guest, "You'll move on and be a champion in your next endeavor as you did in your past ... Life is not a success-only journey. You are going to get beat up along the way."

Focus on yourself. All of us come into relationships with baggage, but you need to have closure on past experiences before you can start a new relationship with the odds in your favor. Dr. Phil tells a guest who's had trouble with her father, her brother and two previous husbands: "Unless and until you've figured out everything you've got to figure out about that and you get closure, you will never come into a relationship with a fresh and clean heart and mind and expectancy and attitude." You're probably not ready to get into another relationship until you heal the wounds of your past.

Listen to what he's saying. If he's telling you that you want different things out of life and there's no way you can work as a couple, don't turn his words around into what you want to hear. He's being quite clear.

Definately!
Thank you Dr. Phill!!

hey!!

..tolong lah marina.. move on lah!..
..let bygone be bygone..

Pengalaman oh pengalaman...

2008... permulaan tahun ni byk mengajar aku erti kehidupan...
byk yg aku tlh belajar..ya, pengalaman ini la yg mematangkan aku..
i've learnt many so many things..

tentang apa itu nilai seorg sahabat,,
tentang ragam mcm2 manusia kt dunia ni,,

juga belajar sesuatu yang sgt berharga..

seseorg yang syg kita..tk mungkin akan terus menyayangi kita selamanya...
aku juga sedar.. Tuhan itu sentiasa menyayangi aku..

situation 1:

ena : sampai hati wat i mcm ni
X : pliss la.. gimme a new life... u yg nk semua ni jd dulu..
ena: then, y dont u gimme another chance?? i bet we'll be better than this
X : dont get me wrong ok..pliss la... do not disturb my life
ena : *crying until no more tears.. ;'{

situation 2:

ena : u,smpai hati ****** wat i mcm ni..i love him
Y : alah, mcm la tk da org lain yg syg you.
ena : siapa?
Y : i..
ena : ;)

situation 3:

ena : anis...aku sedih dia wat aku mcm ni
anis : na, aku terkejut, dia pun wat kau mcm ni..shit la..
ena : anis..brapa kali lg aku nk menangis..tk ckup ke **** wat aku mcm tu hr tu?
anis : na, igt 1 benda.. Tuhan tu tk kejam
ena : aku benci dia anis..
anis : na, aku benci sapa2 je yg wat kau menangis...i'll owez be by your side..

situation 4:

mama: ena, sabar ya..setiap yg berlaku tu ada hikmahnya... ena cantik, ramai yg boleh syg ena.. bkn ****** je...
ena: tp ena sedih la mama, ena tk sangka ****** pn sanggup wt ena mcm ni..
mama:tk pe na, nnt sape2 lelaki mintak no ena, bg je.. ;p
ena: ;)

situation 5:

ena : mom...aku sedih..bla3..
mom : omg!! ena...kesian kau.. i feel like crying too..
ena : mom, kau taw kan..aku bla2..
mom : aku taw na, igt..aku syg kau..syg sgt..kau ada aku..
ena : ;'{


to all my friends and mama...thanks.. ena cuma ada korang je nk support ena..
ena nk mulakan hidup baru..kejar cita2 ena.. ena janji, ena cuba untuk berubah..
cuba untuk tidak lg keluarkan air mata ena..ena taw..1 hari nnt.. ena akan jumpa yg
terbaik..

oh Allah..
please guide me..
i've done a lot of mistakes..
this is all my fault..

ya..
ini balasan yg aku terima..
aku redha..

;'{

Holiday is cuti

(:

aku hanya seorg hamba yg lemah,,
seandainya tiada siapa percaya akan aku,,
aku pasrah,,


....


oh myy Lord,
gimme some strength,,

agar dpt daku bercuti dgn aman..
tanpa 'gangguan'

;p

You go girl! keep dreaming..II

A little advice;

(:

If I'm not sure which way to go..

ask my heart;
my heart will know..

when my mind doesn't know what to say;
my heart will find a way,,

when I can't see the finish line;

or

when my dreams seem hard to find;

know that I knew the way;

...and my heart will lead me there 1 day..

my list of hopes & dreams,,


regards,,
ena

Data Sructure & Algorithm

uarrghh!!
takut nye saye dgn awk!
uh, tp still nk on9 jugak..
ntah ape2 je..
mesti mom pun takut..
anis pun takut...
tp sume mls..
*GRRR..

report n coding tk submit lg!!
tlgggg...

abi dzar,,dzul,,admir,, tolongg...

to Umran Aziz,,
mentang2 kau pandai..
soalan kau bg cam cibai..
cis!

....belajar la!..

You go, girl! Keep dreaming...

Yerp,, im about to write this motivational post!
yes,, im the one who are responsible to my whole life,, to my own future!

if i was a...

star,,
I'd be the brightest! *Grinn*

if i was an..

answer,,
I'd be the right one.. ;)

if i was a..

fine pie,,
I'd be the finest one

I'd be the rare rainbow if rainbows were few;

I'd be the perfect fit, if I was a shoe;

I'd be nice as the sunshine that makes the sky blue;


....learn to fly....